Many success articles focus on helping people “get there” – you know, achieve the goal. I, too, have written many articles on how to attain goals. Most of my clients come to me because they have a goal they want to achieve and they want help making it happen. But what happens after a major goal is achieved? The logical answer is to celebrate the achievement and then focus on the next goal. And that is also good advice.
I use to worry about this. I would think- “What is the matter with me?” I even felt guilt. I thought I should be supremely happy and when I would go through sadness after achievement, I frankly, could not understand myself.
What I have learned is that this is part of the cycle. I see it in myself and my clients. Recognizing that sadness is also a part of the goal achievement cycle helps give a person perspective. I go through it every time I finish a project, finish a book, or any other important goal. I give myself space and time. I don’t try to talk myself out of it. I honor my feelings and allow my emotions to unfold. I am gentle with myself. I practice excellent self-care. I take baths, listen to soothing music, read books for entertainment, and doodle in my journal.
When you are ready, you can move on to what’s next.