I use to worry- a lot.
I would be in bed at night and not sleeping because I would start worrying about the next day, the next week, the next year. I would think thoughts like- if this (fill in the blank) changed, everything would be fine. What I found is that when one situation would be resolved, I still worried. Finally, I realized that I had developed a worrying problem and that even if things were going relatively well, I probably would still worry.
I determined that I did not want to live my life in this way… what worked for me was to find the perfection in the moment. At night, when I would begin worrying, I would stop and say… this moment is perfect. My bed is comfortable, my sheets smell good, my room is relaxing… and I would name everything that was perfect about the moment. Each time that I would slip into worry… I would bring myself back to the moment.
I learned that even in trying times, I could find perfect moments here and there. If I had a big meeting that involved stress- in the car, I would keep my thoughts from worry by bringing myself to the moment. “In this moment, the clouds are beautiful, the car is moving along, I can choose the music I want, I feel my hands on the wheel”, etc
I felt immediate peace and relaxation. The more I practiced being in the moment and feeling the perfection of the moment… the more I felt bliss and joy in every day life.
Perfection in the moment could be a cool hand on a fevered forehead, a cold glass of water soothing a parched throat, deep sobbing that releases emotions- perfection in the moment doesn’t mean that we don’t have ups and downs… it means being present for your life.
Exercise: Take three deep breaths, inhaling and exhaling slowly each time. Describe this present moment… find the perfection in it… Notice how you feel as you bring yourself present.
Love and Blessings,
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL.
Your Inspired Action Success Coach. Life Coach and Transformational Author of multiple books.