Take a little time out in your day to refocus… regroup… and relax.
I really enjoy this video and it helps me let tension melt away.
Blessings,
Sheri
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL.
Your Inspired Action Success Coach. Life Coach and Transformational Author of multiple books.
What do I love about failure? I love the way failure drives my determination to do better. In fact, some of my greatest accomplishments were driven by a previous “failure”. I see this often with clients, too. I have actually gotten to the point of using the word fail or failure almost never. The reason is that a failure is really a lesson. And to me, it is only a failure if you give up on life. If you keep going… you haven’t failed.
Was I always like this? No. I love to win and succeed. I have often experienced the sensation of being able to achieve what I want seamlessly and in a straightforward manner. So when I would “fail” – I hated it. I would dwell on it for weeks. I would be embarrassed and angry.
What I learned is that if I never “fail”- I am setting the achievement bar too low. When I am stretching, I am bound to make a few mistakes and that is okay- because I want the bar to be set high.
On an intellectual level, most of us understand and are able to say… I will do better next time. But on an emotional level, how can we take the sting out of an “epic fail”. You might have chuckled because most of us have not truly had an “epic fail” but we think we have in the moment of the experience.
So what can you do? When you are right in the middle of disappointment? First, be very gentle with yourself. Allow some quiet time to reflect, listen to music, journal and chill out. If you are in a public forum and you cannot leave, take deep breaths. Choose your words carefully- you don’t want to be a “sore loser”. Be happy (at least on the outside) for other’s success (eventually you will be able to be genuinely happy). Avoid quick decisions when you are in the middle of feeling the “failure”.
Allow some time to pass (it could be minutes, hours, days…) so you can gain perspective. Then go back to your journal and write down the positive side… you can even rewrite the experience minus the mistakes to train your brain for the next steps you take.
One of the best things about ‘failure” is that it can shake your energy up and give you a shot of momentum to make positive changes.
The best advice of all… keep going, keep doing, keep believing. Believe in YOU. I do.
Warmest,
Sheri
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL.
Your Inspired Action Success Coach. Life Coach and Transformational Author of multiple books.
Warmest,
Sheri
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL.
Your Inspired Action Success Coach. Life Coach and Transformational Author of multiple books.
I am really excited to announce my new android app. You can get two of my blogs, my podcast, and my youtube channel in this app…
It was so much fun creating it (pssssst…. I also have an app coming for the iphone in a few weeks)
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Warmest,
Sheri
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL.
Your Inspired Action Success Coach. Life Coach and Transformational Author of multiple books.
12 Days of Christmas Coaching Tip: Choose the Better Feeling Thought
Every moment of every day we have choice. We can choose a better feeling thought. Each subject has a positive side and a negative side. For instance, if you have a bill and you constantly tell yourself- how am I going to make that payment? and you stress about it every month- you are feeling the negative side of the experience.
On the other hand, if you have a bill every month and you tell yourself, “I got this.” ”It’s easy peasy” “I am paying for something I highly value and my payment is worthwhile.” “I appreciate the services or product I receive in exchange for my payment”. You are on the positive feeling side of the experience.
The negative feelings bring struggle- and you will have the experience of difficulty in your finances. The positive feelings bring solutions and an easier flow of money.
You probably recognize your own situations regarding positive and negative… Look at your results and trace them back to your thought processes. In fact, keep a journal and record your thoughts… you will begin to recognize patterns.
Start using more positive language and cultivate positive thoughts around your goals. Use language that demonstrates achievement, possibilities, happiness, joy. The idea is cultivate the good feeling experience.
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Coach Sheri
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL.
Your Inspired Action Success Coach. Life Coach and Transformational Author of multiple books.
12 Days of Christmas Coaching Tip: Practice Unconditional Love
Practicing unconditional love. You might be thinking- What does that mean? And why is it important? Most of us experience unconditional love for family members and some of our friends. But most of us also look at love as feeling instead of an action verb. And let’s face it… most of our love is conditional… we have no problem honking at that driver who cut us off on the road or being angry with someone who takes our parking spot.
To practice unconditional love means making a commitment… that we choose love as our primary place of being and doing in our lives. What would some of your meetings look like at work if you came to the table intent on loving unconditionally? The ego reaction is set aside. You are in full appreciation and love with your fellow coworkers just because they are there and are people. This probably sounds like an impossible dream- a utopia, perhaps. And maybe we cannot love unconditionally 100% of the time. But think of the shift and change for you, if you could practice it and extend it just a little bit more each day?
In my book, Living Successfully and Joyfully Everyday- 90 Days of Inspiration- I devote a large portion of the book to the idea of love as a successful approach to life.
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Wishing you love, blessings, and joy this Holiday Season.
Warmest,
Coach Sheri
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL.
Your Inspired Action Success Coach. Life Coach and Transformational Author of multiple books.
Please enjoy today’s 12 Days of Christmas Coaching Tip: Create an Empowering, Goal Achieving Mindset
Your mindset is your most powerful ally or enemy in your life. You do have the ability to successfully manage your thought life. I encourage you to use this life-changing paradigm immediately.
The work you do in creating an empowering, goal achieving mindset, yields immediate results. You will rapidly move yourself towards your goals as you continuously affirm what it is that you want and remove your focus from what you do not want.
Make an effort to use positive language in your self-talk and your conversations with others. Turn everything into a focus on the desired outcome and not on what you want to avoid.
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“You can have anything you want if you will give up the belief that you can’t have it.” Dr Robert Anthony
I love this quote. Our beliefs drive our success or our lack of success. What do you want? Start seeing it and believing it. Stop saying to yourself- It will never happen – and stop looking for excuses or someone or something to blame. Believe… I believe in you. I know that if you can believe in you- you will see that goal happen. I have witnessed many talented individuals, teams, organizations- who never really believe and they plateau or slide backwards…
If you struggle with belief… use affirmations to help you turn this around. Simple statements like- I believe in my skills. I believe that I deserve to perform at a high level. I believe that I am worthy. I believe that I can do it. I believe … (create your own personal statement).
Practice these statements and also notice your own self- talk – be aware- notice when you say… I can’t do it… With some diligence, you will find yourself shifting to a stronger, winning set of beliefs.
If you want more help changing your beliefs- you may want to check out one of my three books.
Warmest,
Sheri
Sheri Kaye Hoff
M.A. CGCL Life Coach and Author
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Are your beliefs about yourself supporting you? Use these positive thoughts to build a strong sense of empowering self-belief.
1. I am worthy.
I just read Maria Erving’s new eBook “The Power of Aligned Thought…” I am really impressed by the amount of information packed into this eBook. The eBook is a great read…easy to understand…and flows naturally. At the end of the book, the reader feels like there is a clear understanding of how the mind works…but also how to program the mind (and why it works). If you want a concise read that shows you with great text, diagrams, and charts how to reach the Power of Aligned Thought…you will want to get this eBook. Thanks, Maria for creating a wonderful work. You can get her new eBook at http://www.MariaErving.com
Sheri Kaye Hoff, MA, CGCL, Life Coach, Author, College Professor
